Dear Michelle:

As I read your recent post I was impressed by how reasonable your thinking is, how clearly you see the situation for what it is.

“I brought up keeping in touch. He accepted right away and seemed more anxious than me to fall back into our old ways sending me messages immediately after and while I slept. Is this incredibly unhealthy and preventing me from accepting that I most likely need to let go of this person?”-

– My answer: it seems healthy to me, to want to continue a friendship that has been so beneficial in your life, and in his life. I think it is a wonderful thing that the two of you will continue to communicate as before.

If you stopped all contact with him, it is likely that you will still hope of resuming contact in the future, if conditions change. Therefore, I see no disadvantage to resuming contact with him now, as long as you can view the future in .. bite size pieces, so to speak, meaning not seeing a forever-after future with him or no future at all, but instead, seeing the future as one day at a time. After all, one day may be all the forever-after future for any of us.

anita