Dear Jenny:

You do get it. I am impressed. A child’s thinking is naturally that of extremes, and in that extreme-thinking of the child that you were, you made your future choice of a man like L.

What you needed as a child was your father’s protection. But he was weak, submissive, too polite. Fast forward, you equated rudeness to protection, without being aware of it. You kept being drawn to L- not because he was rude, but because you distortedly equated his rudeness with protection.

anita