Dear Ryan:

I understand better now. I could re-read this thread and the previous to understand better, but for now (I am not very focused at this time), what I understand- and let me know if I am partly correct- your fascination, perhaps, in regard to your ex is the image of you in her mind. It is almost as if you are a mystery to yourself, not seeing yourself clearly, and as she reflects the image of you, like a mirror, you are fascinated by it, trying to see it better (?)

And her son, the connection with him was special, for you and for him, it has been much simpler than the connection with her, much simpler. There was clarity there, you saw him clearly, he saw you clearly, nothing to explain, or analyze, or figure out.

She wrote to you that your (more than friends) relationship was not defined, and she said to you, “we will have to decide what exactly our relationship is or is going to be because my heart needs a rest. My brain needs a rest… I don’t see any reason why we can’t be friends… If we are meant to be friends, then great!”-

– I don’t think the two of you defined “friends” in the current circumstances. Working on a definition may lead to your heart and your brain being at rest.

anita