Dear Tati:

If there was a study and statistics on the future of people who (1) did not meet in-person, but on a dating app, (2) people who live in different countries, and (3) neither has a predetermined intent to move to that other country (ex., wanting to immigrate to the other country and is seeking a sponsor)- I would have liked to see that study, and to know the chances of such contact ending with a life together, in-person.

Let’s say that at the end of the three weeks of texting and one phone call, you did not tell him that you can’t do it, and you did not accuse him of anything; let’s say that you were thoroughly very nice romantic, and witty etc., what would it have taken for this texting/ online relationship to end in a life together?

In trying to answer this question, better address first the “And They Lived Happily Ever After” fairytale factor, one that we read in fairytales, magazine stories, books and seen in movies.  When you think about your particular “New Long Distance Love” story (the title of your thread)- you have to remove the fairytale factor before considering the real-life chances.

At this time of restrictions on social gatherings, bars and restaurants closed- internet is the only perfectly safe social opportunity for love and romance. He may have communicated only with you for a while, he may have communicated with others (online apps have lots of members, it is too tempting to not check.. what else is out there).

What about the time when the restrictions are a thing of the past, maybe next year after adequate vaccinations, when there are opportunities for physical socializing- will he still prefer to limit himself to texting over attending parties and such?

Reality is, you are in Miami, your life is as it is, and better not put all your eggs in this one basket. I understand that you were unsuccessful in the last three years dating in Miami, but there are ways to learn from that experience and improve your dating skills within Miami, becoming successful- all you need is just one real-life dating success story.

anita