Dear Jacobus:
Thank you for the holiday wishes. “Any advice that I can really erase her from my brain! It’s so hard to forget about her!”-
– Focus on your life as it is now, where you are. The practice is called Mindfulness. You can read about it by going to BLOG at the top of the page; there is a Mindfulness Kit that you can look at under HOME. There are otherwise many online resources, magazines, books and workbooks on the topic of Mindfulness. Study it, practice it, and you will gradually focus more and more on your here-and-now, and less on the there-and-then.
anita