Dear Sarah:

I think that you do need to see to it that he no  longer calls or messages you. Tell him to no longer call/ message you, not during work hours and not after work hours. If there is a need for him to communicate with you during work hours (?), he should do it professionally, not privately.

If he does not respect your assertion, block him from your phone.

I think that it is time for you to no longer be bamboozled by this man, see him for what he is: a married man who is looking for some good time/ for fun. When you see him staring at you, think to yourself: this is a married man who wants to have some fun with me. There is more to me than a way for a married man to have fun with!

When you think this every time he stares at you, or at any other time- over time, your feeling for him will change.

anita