Dear Oceandrive24:

I understand that it is difficult/ impossible to feel and/ or act calm all the time, especially when tired, that’s why I qualified the suggestion with “best you can”. Regarding your older son, he should have his alone-time with his mates without his brother interrupting, even if it displeases his younger brother.

You wrote: “he’s aware something feels different as he will say he has to have a shower for example but in the same sentence say he doesn’t want to but just has to otherwise xyz will occur”- I don’t have a clear picture of this example:  can you describe it to me clearly, in detail- what does he say/do, what do you say/do in the context of the interaction with him?

“The main difficulties I have is helping him to accept and understand his OCD… I would like to gain an understanding of why he finds it difficult to talk about it, or accept it?”- please take all the time you need (I will be away from the computer for a while) and let me know what you said to him so far in regard to his OCD/ how did you try to help him accept and understand his OCD?

anita