Dear Riya:

You are welcome. “I am venting out things, which would not even make sense”- it is okay to vent your feelings here, and feelings often don’t make sense.

“Still, couldn’t help but feel a bit bad. I mean yes, religion is a huge problem here, but I know his parents if they think this is important for him, they will support him. That’s what I have always felt about them”- even though it is okay for any one of us to vent our feelings (in ways that don’t hurt others), it is very unwise to let our feelings do our thinking.

Our thinking should be guided by logic and reason, not overtaken by our feelings. You know that religion is a huge problem, and yet, you “know” that his parents would have approved him marrying someone of a different religion. You “know” because you want/ desire (=feelings) them to approve.

“If someone really wants something, they usually at least try whatever they can”- he told you that his parents disapproved of his first marriage, meaning he already tried to marry a woman who was disapproved by his parents, and he  married her, and it didn’t work out.

anita