Dear Janet:

I can relate to being the one girl in high school without a boyfriend, envying the girls with boyfriends, and I can relate to being hit on, at 17 and on by “some old, creepy men”. I would like to understand your situation better so to have something to offer you, therefore I ask (and please feel free to answer or not, I am okay with either choice):

1. You wrote: “I feel constant shame”- shame in regard to not having been in a relationship, or is there other shame, shame that originated in your earlier childhood?

2. You wrote: “I would like to take care of me for a change, instead of me always being the support and the ‘psychologist’ for other people”- when did your role of being the support/ the psychologist for other people start? Have you been a support and psychologist to any of your parents?

anita