Hello Prachi, Ani and Natasha

I came on this page after searching ” How to deal with over talkative wife” and it seems that I am the type of person or husband whom you are all discussing and blaming. After reading your thoughts its seems that I am the problem so assuming me as a problem itself I will try to express the felling and thought process of silent and boring type of husbands.

Ani , you have mentioned that your husband is talkative with his friends and he is humorous while talking then you have to understand that there is clear intelligence gap between you and your husband and you have to accept that he is more intelligent and than you. Please don’t judge peoples intelligence from their earnings. Most often intelligent people are silent, secretive and humorous while taking. They are easily distracted by nonsense discussion or talks, and are confused most of the times that what to talk or speak. The talk, which requires mental stimulation or deep thought process suits them or infact they like it. They enjoy discussing deep things or any new theory or any kind of thing which require mental stimulation. They will be in their own thought process most of the time and it requires a lot of energy which they don’t want to use on useless talks. As an example I don’t like to bargain or ask again for price if the matter is of few hundred rupees or if shopkeeper is quoting only 1% higher rate or if the seller is quite poor economically whereas my wife will haggle for even two rupees, will discuss useless things with shopkeeper, will talk a lot before purchasing and after purchasing she will discuss about the product several times. I think that discussing, debating for just few rupees is quite a waste of time and speaking itself drains a lot of energy. I devote more time thinking about the quality of product, price quoted, products market value, shopkeepers margin, shopkeeper behavior, analyzing his body language, his intentions and this make me better in judging other people thought process and intentions. Needless to say that my wife always get irritated from me and my behavior. She thinks that I am weird and stupid. I think a lot before uttering a single word, I try to choose my words carefully, will always try to speak words or sentences  that would put a impact on situation. I hate listening stupid discussion and bombardment of word or sentences which offer no conclusion. For example people will always discuss problems, weather be it someone’s financial or health problems but will not discuss about the solutions and reasons behind the problems and will speak nonsensible for hours where as I hate discussing those things and will only speak when there is a need or if I can be of some help. With this behavior of mine people assume that i am weird or ghamandi. Lot of people had branded me as Ghamandi whereas I think I am the most down to earth person among them. I don’t care about clothes or a person status while interacting them, will never judge people but I hate hypocrites and sweet takers as i know their intentions.

You will not believe that I don’t like to talk or discuss even after having lot of booze instead i love to think a lot after drinking, it helps me connecting with myself. My friends say that i am sadistic  and wife says that i am Aghori as how can a person don’t speak even after drinking. I don’t like to enjoy loud parties.

I was initially thinking to write some solution here for the problem but i will write only if someone will reply here to my thread otherwise why to waste time. I love my own loneliness.