Dear KayCee:

In your original post on May 4 2020, and in your second post on May 5, you wrote about your friend at the time: “he’s been in his apartment near Uni campus in isolation and he got real drunk. I went over to check on him and he was passed out in the tub. When I woke him he got so mad at me, he accused me of violating his privacy because he was naked.. he said.. I violated his privacy and made reference to how he keeps (his hair ‘there’.. to how he chooses to shave that area”-

– On May 6, I wondered how you were able to enter his apartment, given that he was drunk in his tub and unable to open the door to you. I wrote to you on that day: “I suppose you entered his apartment that day because you had a key to it (?)” In that post, introduced to you the idea that you had a key to his apartment. You replied on the same day, May 6: “yes, had a key and still have it”.

It is today, Feb 19, 2021, nine months later, that I realize that it makes no sense that (1) he gave you a key to begin with, being you were a friend, not a sometimes living-in girlfriend, especially being as concerned as he was about his privacy, and (2)  being as angry as he was when you entered his apartment using the key (if he gave you a key),  that he didn’t demand his key back on that same day you entered his apartment while he was naked in the tub.

It doesn’t make sense that you didn’t mention a key before I introduced the question of how you entered his apartment without his permission, and it doesn’t make sense that you “still have it” in May 6.

It also doesn’t make sense that less than 3 months after the bathtub incident, after he was so terribly ashamed and angry about you seeing his “down there”, and after you felt so embarrassed and guilty about seeing his “down there”,  in August 2-3 2020, he got a case of Poison Ivey, while you were with him, he then got an ointment from the pharmacy, and allowed you to place the ointment on his naked body, allowing you- once again- to see his “down there”, and this time, “he was okay with it”.

At this point, I am thinking that you didn’t tell the story truthfully. If you need help, better you tell the truth. I am not here to make you feel ashamed for not having told the truth. I am here to suggest that if you need help, better tell the truth, especially given that this is an anonymous forum.

I will not shame you in any way for telling the truth next, if you choose to do so. Given the truth, I may be able to suggest something helpful to you.

anita