Dear anita,

Just in time! I’ve spent this past week worrying over a conversation I’ve had with my closest friend. And now when I look back at the whole week of over worrying, it was certainly the ‘bad person’ complex.

I’ve been feeling guilty and ashamed, that I’m a terrible friend. That my words weren’t the best at comforting her anxiousness over a few matters and her mental health diagnosis. That maybe I even made it worse by saying something that wasn’t the best to say. “Will she even be open or vulnerable with me again?”, “Does she feel worse after talking it out to me?”, “Am I a terrible friend and listener?”

I don’t want to brush this guilt away by just calling it ‘bad person’ complex. I wish to improve on what to say next time. I want to be a better listener next time. But this guilt makes me feel unworthy of lots of things. Of being their friend, because I wasn’t good enough. Are there any positive affirmations or a different perspective to view these episodes of ‘bad person’ complex with?

I hope you’re having a good day.

Regards,

Javairia