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March 20, 2021 at 8:59 am #376354
Thank you very much. I will
-JavairiaMarch 18, 2021 at 12:19 pm #376262
I took my time to reply. Thank you for letting me take it
I re-read the previous posts. A lot of things make sense; how you put them there, and also in this post. The angry-crazy-critic especially makes sense. And also why it is there. As you mentioned here: “It will be possible for you to distinguish between your irrational inner critic and your rational inner critic when you weaken the first and strengthen the second over time and practice.” It definitely is through thorough and slow practice, that weaknesses and strengths are worked on.
From those previous conversations I found something similar that I will hold onto for a while from now: “Let this concept sink in, bit by bit, over time, let it slowly neutralize the overthinking.”
Because it sounds like one of the optimal affirmations I was looking for, to tell myself from time-to-time. In order not to burden myself, and not to rush.
About your reply to the second question: It sounds like an inspiring response to me! I am refreshed to read it; the reminder that we have the power to learn and re-learn (and also, un-learn) is one of the most relieving and beautiful things. Truly inspiring
JavairiaMarch 15, 2021 at 10:19 am #376125
I will reply in a few hours or more, after reading the previous posts, as you suggested.
I really appreciate your response
-JavairiaMarch 13, 2021 at 11:28 pm #376069
Yes it helped me. I hope you have a nice dayMarch 13, 2021 at 11:26 pm #376068
I had another question for you. Did you deal with the similar problem of high expectations imposed by your daydreaming on your future self, or did it not affect you that way? I’m a little curious to know about it. Feel free to answer or ignore this!
-JavairiaMarch 13, 2021 at 11:18 pm #376067
Thank you very much for sharing your experience. And I’m so glad to know you’ve been doing better after all that you had to deal with. These for sure are escapist tendencies. I totally get where you’re coming from, that those idealistic fantasies set high expectations onto your real world and adult self. I find myself indulging in these fantasies that interfere with my future goals, and expectations. So I tend to write them down and talk myself through each of them time-to-time. But I know they will get out of control and I will not be able to verbalize every single thing one day. So a balance, like in everything, is needed.
Thanks again for sharing your story. I hope you well for your future and everything
JavairiaMarch 13, 2021 at 10:57 pm #376065
Just in time! I’ve spent this past week worrying over a conversation I’ve had with my closest friend. And now when I look back at the whole week of over worrying, it was certainly the ‘bad person’ complex.
I’ve been feeling guilty and ashamed, that I’m a terrible friend. That my words weren’t the best at comforting her anxiousness over a few matters and her mental health diagnosis. That maybe I even made it worse by saying something that wasn’t the best to say. “Will she even be open or vulnerable with me again?”, “Does she feel worse after talking it out to me?”, “Am I a terrible friend and listener?”
I don’t want to brush this guilt away by just calling it ‘bad person’ complex. I wish to improve on what to say next time. I want to be a better listener next time. But this guilt makes me feel unworthy of lots of things. Of being their friend, because I wasn’t good enough. Are there any positive affirmations or a different perspective to view these episodes of ‘bad person’ complex with?
I hope you’re having a good day.
JavairiaMarch 9, 2021 at 7:35 am #375818
Thanks a lot for the nice suggestions, I do take walks outside often, but I think I need to slow down a bit and breathe some nice air too! Thanks again.March 9, 2021 at 7:31 am #375817
Yes I agree with what you wrote.
Thank you so much. Like alwaysFebruary 26, 2021 at 12:14 pm #375249
Thank you very much for the reply. I do relate to the description you put out. Maybe it’s also a way to deal with unpleasant/traumatic memories as you said. I didn’t feel the large part of grief of childhood trauma until I was 15 or 16, perhaps I was numbing the stressing part of it through this stress coping mechanism; by dissociating.
I do have a school counsellor, and she recommended me to hang in there before being able to move out. She said that I can focus on studying and other personal goals, later I’m moving out for university anyway.
Thanks a lot for the nice suggestions, thinking of going out in fresh air more around trees.
-javairiaFebruary 26, 2021 at 11:57 am #375243
Thank you so much for the reply. And for also putting in the effort to search it all up, if you did it exclusively for this. I’m grateful
Oh, I read on a past thread of a relevant topic for me, that you had to deal with OCD. I’ve read that maladaptive daydreaming can also be one of the symptoms of OCD. Maybe those two are connected; anyhow I’m proud to know that you’ve made it manageable for yourself by now.
I’ve checked out the two forums you wrote of. Will try posting or interacting there if I’ll have something to talk about on MD. Thank you for suggestingFebruary 23, 2021 at 10:09 am #375110
Thanks a lot, Anita. The wishes are truly warm, I hope they come trueJanuary 9, 2021 at 5:59 am #372468
As always: delighted to read your response. I am so glad to know that I made it on your list too!
-JavairiaJanuary 3, 2021 at 6:30 am #372107
Since it’s past New Year’s already; I wish you all the belated sincere greetings. I hope you still are coping the best.
I am happy to write that I am, too, coping the best right now.
It put a smile on my face today, when I discovered that you were thinking of me on an important holiday. Although I don’t celebrate Christmas, it was nice to receive a holiday greeting as a warm gesture. So that’s how you go on the list of ‘one of the first things that made me genuinely smile this year’! And in return, I wish that if such list exists for you(on a paper or as a mental note), you get to fill it with nice and interesting things.
I truly appreciate all your replies and your presence on this forum. Stay healthy!
JavairiaDecember 13, 2020 at 12:02 pm #371007
That is a pretty alarming news, I hope you and other citizens are coping well.
Thank you for understanding. I really don’t get the hold of my thoughts when I’m at home. Even when nothing particularly bad is happening, I just seem to lose all my motivation, discipline and energy. I am not myself right now. And this lifeless me needs to get done with really important stuff like Scholarship Award Applications, studying for A-levels exams and such.
I am guessing I’ll have to find a way or excuse to stay out somewhere to do my tasks. I really want to run away from this stillness, it’s eating me away. What do you do when you feel stuck in life?