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October 29, 2021 at 5:51 am #387913
Thank you for replying. I won’t receive her calls in front of anyone from now. I’ll disengage the best I can.
I’ll try to be careful of what I say
I always feel better and heard reading from youOctober 16, 2021 at 10:31 am #387415
Thank you for always being there.
-JavairiaOctober 16, 2021 at 10:05 am #387411
It’s been a while. I hope life’s going well and interesting for you.
On my end: I have finally moved out and have started my uni in a another country. It’s been almost 3 weeks now.
You’ve been nothing but a kind stranger I wrote to for over 2 years now. You cross my mind sometimes and it makes me feel really grateful- really really grateful. I wish you good health and lots of love.
And thank you again, I’ll add if I feel like adding something.
-JavairiaJune 15, 2021 at 1:37 pm #381503
Thanks a lot for the advice. I’ll read it a several times tomorrow as well.
Might add on to this thread if I’d have anything to add. Thanks again!June 15, 2021 at 11:06 am #381496
I hope you’re doing well. The weather where I live was really pleasant today. And I hope you get a nice weather where you are too.
I’m adding on this thread for another advice.
My best friend got diagnosed with ADHD and bipolar recently. She’s having a hard time with meds and trying to keep with new “go to sleep on time” instruction. The doctor says it’s important for bp meds to work and such, and she says she feels extremely lethargic and unmotivated if she gets a full nights sleep. Meaning the only way, she thinks, for her to be productive is through a wonky sleep schedule that let’s her pull all-nighters here and there. And she’s somehow also energetic on days she hasn’t gotten enough sleep.
Along with the sleep issue, she’s also going through a depressive episode. She stated that she’d rather not like to call it one, but I guess that’s what it is.
We call almost everyday for atleast 2 hours to catch up on things. And I feel guilty these days after she’s done calling. She sounds tired and low a lot. Is there a way I can make it better? What should a good friend do in this situation? What’s the best I can do? And what I might do to make it worse?
Thanks for listening, as always. Have a great day
-JavairiaMay 6, 2021 at 12:16 am #379257
Thank you for always listening and replying. I appreciate your response
I don’t have a lot to say or to add on to this thread. Still your insight was comforting to read through- I felt heard, like always. I hope you’re well and healthy
JavairiaApril 30, 2021 at 3:27 am #378958
Thank you so much for the compliment, I appreciate it!March 20, 2021 at 8:59 am #376354
Thank you very much. I will
-JavairiaMarch 18, 2021 at 12:19 pm #376262
I took my time to reply. Thank you for letting me take it
I re-read the previous posts. A lot of things make sense; how you put them there, and also in this post. The angry-crazy-critic especially makes sense. And also why it is there. As you mentioned here: “It will be possible for you to distinguish between your irrational inner critic and your rational inner critic when you weaken the first and strengthen the second over time and practice.” It definitely is through thorough and slow practice, that weaknesses and strengths are worked on.
From those previous conversations I found something similar that I will hold onto for a while from now: “Let this concept sink in, bit by bit, over time, let it slowly neutralize the overthinking.”
Because it sounds like one of the optimal affirmations I was looking for, to tell myself from time-to-time. In order not to burden myself, and not to rush.
About your reply to the second question: It sounds like an inspiring response to me! I am refreshed to read it; the reminder that we have the power to learn and re-learn (and also, un-learn) is one of the most relieving and beautiful things. Truly inspiring
JavairiaMarch 15, 2021 at 10:19 am #376125
I will reply in a few hours or more, after reading the previous posts, as you suggested.
I really appreciate your response
-JavairiaMarch 13, 2021 at 11:28 pm #376069
Yes it helped me. I hope you have a nice dayMarch 13, 2021 at 11:26 pm #376068
I had another question for you. Did you deal with the similar problem of high expectations imposed by your daydreaming on your future self, or did it not affect you that way? I’m a little curious to know about it. Feel free to answer or ignore this!
-JavairiaMarch 13, 2021 at 11:18 pm #376067
Thank you very much for sharing your experience. And I’m so glad to know you’ve been doing better after all that you had to deal with. These for sure are escapist tendencies. I totally get where you’re coming from, that those idealistic fantasies set high expectations onto your real world and adult self. I find myself indulging in these fantasies that interfere with my future goals, and expectations. So I tend to write them down and talk myself through each of them time-to-time. But I know they will get out of control and I will not be able to verbalize every single thing one day. So a balance, like in everything, is needed.
Thanks again for sharing your story. I hope you well for your future and everything
JavairiaMarch 13, 2021 at 10:57 pm #376065
Just in time! I’ve spent this past week worrying over a conversation I’ve had with my closest friend. And now when I look back at the whole week of over worrying, it was certainly the ‘bad person’ complex.
I’ve been feeling guilty and ashamed, that I’m a terrible friend. That my words weren’t the best at comforting her anxiousness over a few matters and her mental health diagnosis. That maybe I even made it worse by saying something that wasn’t the best to say. “Will she even be open or vulnerable with me again?”, “Does she feel worse after talking it out to me?”, “Am I a terrible friend and listener?”
I don’t want to brush this guilt away by just calling it ‘bad person’ complex. I wish to improve on what to say next time. I want to be a better listener next time. But this guilt makes me feel unworthy of lots of things. Of being their friend, because I wasn’t good enough. Are there any positive affirmations or a different perspective to view these episodes of ‘bad person’ complex with?
I hope you’re having a good day.
JavairiaMarch 9, 2021 at 7:35 am #375818
Thanks a lot for the nice suggestions, I do take walks outside often, but I think I need to slow down a bit and breathe some nice air too! Thanks again.