Dear Lily:

I am glad you are feeling calmer since you started your thread!

How interesting: yesterday, I wrote to you: “one month and ten days of Accountability!”- I meant is as something positive, something to make you feel good: that you intended to be Accountable every day, and indeed, you were accountable, posting every single day for a month and ten days.

Look how you interpreted my sentence: “hm, the accountability thread is more than a month old. Often I don’t get so much done. But the good thing is..”- you picked on something negative, something bad, in my sentence, something I did not think about at all when I wrote it to you: that you did not not accomplished enough in a month and ten days.

Now, please notice this: what I wrote in the above paragraph is not meant as criticism of you. It is meant to help you recognize further/ to be even more mindful of your (inner critic’s) tendency to interpret people’s words as negative criticism of you when there is no criticism there!

You see the negative about yourself when I (and some other people, in real-life) see the positive about you. You wrote it yourself in your most recent post: “I have learnt that people who like me do exist and that I am o.K”- correct!

About predators like cougars, their favorite prey is not humans- that’s my fortune as a human. They are not likely to attack humans although attacks on humans happen from time to time. I hope you have a restful night and a good work day tomorrow!

anita