I feel the heart has all the answers…..always and everytime. Its the inertia which prevents us from something clearly written all over. I would suggest :

1. you speak one last time with your boyfriend about all your concerns. It should be you speaking out honestly what you feel and what you want.
2. give him some time to think about what you have said and if he thinks and if he is ready to change….may be a month is suitable time.
3. move to your mom’s place for a month or so. and tell the guy…if he sees any substance in whatever you spoke and he is ready to work towards aking it a meaningful relationship….you both can go to a counsellor after one month and start afresh. But for one month just put the relationship in sleeping mode and pamper yourself. Don’t discuss much about your relationship with anyone.

Just Eat and pray for one month…..se if you and more importantly he is ready for LOVE……again:)

Cheers!!