Dear Bella:

Because of shortage of time, I read through your original post quickly and would like to return, re-read and reply further tomorrow morning, in about 17 hours from now. I hope other members reply to you before I return.

For now, it is clear that you are very much emotionally attached to this man, that if you continue the relationship, you will continue to suffer, and so will your children, and if you separate from him, you will suffer, and so will your children, because their mother will be in such pain. Emotionally it’s a catch 22 situation: you suffer if he stays, you suffer if he goes, at least for some time.

If you are okay sharing about what in your childhood experience led you to be in this situation, please share.

anita