Alexa,

That is what his question sounds like to me in not so many words. The phrasing continues to fester in my mind, because asking you to become a possession is… not ideal.

In terms of coaxing a rabbit out of a hole, patience patience patience. I have heard it described like helping a flower bloom. We pour our love and acceptance like water and rain, and wait for the flower to open. If we become impatient, we try to pull the petals out and can too easily rip the bud apart.

What to say to that question is up to your heart. What I do with my wife is just say exactly what comes to heart. Much like when we injure our hand our other hand moves to soothe it, when people we love are hurt our heart moves to soothe them. Trust that!

With warmth,
Matt