Dear Dee:

You are welcome. I am so glad to read that you are “10000% about women’s empowerment and would not have ever imagined myself supporting the suspect in a case like this… I don’t want people to think I’m terrible for still supporting K/ not believing the girl”-

– It is true that there are women who lie and make up sexual assault allegations against men. But there are a whole lot more men who lie and claim that the women they assaulted lied about the assault. For a lot of men it is a .. right to use a woman’s body for his sexual pleasure, whether she consents to it or not, and when she resists his sexual advances- he feels wronged for being.. unfairly denied his (non-existing) right!

“K is also fairly close to my family and for him to share what is going on with him during down times at least with my brother who has had a somewhat similar situation is kind of big and something I don’t think he would do if he weren’t being 100%”-

– (1) He is fairly close to you and yet he repeatedly lied to you.

-(2) Your brother was accused of a sexual offense he did not commit, no wonder then that K is willing to share being accused of a sexual offense with an empathetic person.

“I think about it pretty often how I am dating someone who has potentially done such an awful thing… It makes me feel bad myself as I worry about the way people perceive me and I don’t want people to think I’m terrible for still supporting K/ not believing the girl”-

– question is were there previous sexual misconduct allegations made against K in the military or otherwise… ? Often a person charged with an offense, has done that same/ similar offense repeatedly in the past, and got away with it.. before getting in legal trouble for the first time.

anita