Dear Annie:

I am sorry that this is your experience. It is very difficult to live feeling resentment day after day, year after year as a result of being treated unfairly, or unequally. Your family dynamics (who asks help from whom, etc.) have been established and continue habitually. It will be impossible to change them unless everyone is on board, meaning that a series of meetings take place between your parents, your sister and yourself where you have honest discussions meant to resolve problems and dissolve resentments.

Is there someone, maybe an aunt or an uncle, or a grandparent, an older family member who does not live with you, who will hear and see you (“I just feel so unheard and unseen by my parents”), and who can help in maybe organize and lead such a meeting?

anita