Hi Linarra,

What works for one person may not work for another. That’s why it’s hard to prescribe anything for the healing journey. Only you know yourself and what you need. Or at least you’re learning about your needs now.

I would say based on your last message that self-compassion is the area that you need to focus on. Your inner child healing, letting yourself feel emotions and cry and inability to truly let go (due to my positivity trick) shows me you’ve been so neglected you can’t function.

Fierce Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff is what I would recommend in this case, more than the other  books I recommended. So the Try Softer and Tiny Beautiful Things, keep those on backburner. Get this book and see if it helps you.

Kristin Neff has a lot of tools on her website too.

Most of all, forgive yourself for feeling this way. It’s okay my positivity trick didn’t work for you. I feel very reassured by my little 222 signs and thinking it’s all going to be okay. But that’s me trusting just to trust (and also my faith impacts this part of my experience).

Let me know if you decide to look into Kristin Neff.

Sarah