Thanks Anita, I won’t write the whole letter out because it is quite long.

Just in short, I have written, “I have been feeling quite distant, sorry for not replying to your messages… I feel there is a dynamic where I bare all to you – often due to mental health issues – which you have always been supportive of. Sometimes I feel this is not reciprocated, hearing how well everything is going for you, often I feel worse after our conversations (*have said how proud of her I am for how well she’s doing). I find this draining. I feel like maybe you don’t trust me enough to tell me this part of yourself. I feel like a charity case and inferior to you because your life always seems perfect. I do not want to attack you. *Have then said about dishonesty to do with her dad. I need authenticity and connection and this comes with baring all to the person, the good, the bad and the ugly. I know we are all trying our best, we have just become different people who need different things from our lives and relationships, this is why I am taking a step back from our friendship. I don’t like how I’ve treated you because I’ve been upset. I do love you, you’ve been a good friend over the years, I just need some time apart.”

I think if I go to into detail it will be an attack and I don’t want to upset her so I’ve written the main upset on my part. Do you think this is too harsh?

Thanks so much again!

Alice x