Dear emmaholson

Thank you for your answer. It sounds very familiar. He has diagnosed ADHD. I had to look at the link between hoarding and ADHD and it all makes sense. The apartment is full of stuff, except a small room of mine and the kitchen and I have to fight against his stuff creeping in those areas too.
The garage is full and two basement rooms in his moms house. She fights with him about it every time they meet. She wants him to free those rooms but there is no place in our apartment for this stuff.
And it comes that I barely can touch it, because something may take a scratch. Like if I am in a room and something falls on the floor he jumps with anxiety, comes in and asks „What was it?!?“
It may be just a spoon I dropped, but he is really anxious about his things.
When there is stuff from him lying on the bed and I want to sleep I have to ask him to put it away for me. I am not allowed to put them away, because something may break. I feel way to restricted in my home.
And even though I know it is his problem he makes me feel so incapable with myself.