Hello TeaK,

I never thought about her being a perfectionist, because she is so messy, but I guess those don’t have to go together, I assumed that perfectionists would want things clean and tidy.  Her having low self-esteem could definitely be a problem, she does always ask if she is doing good or if everything will be ok.   That might be the reason though,  but if it is, then is there nothing that I can do to help her?  She would have to go back to seeing a therapist in order to get those problems taken care of, or start taking care of it, but she was resistant to seeing a therapist before.  I got her to start seeing a therapist, but she stopped going about a year ago, saying that she was ok, and we shouldn’t be spending money on the therapist, but maybe I will have to push the subject again.