Dear Jisoo,

you’re very welcome. It’s a blessing that you’re not forced to live with your parents any longer… I understand that on one hand you are grateful to them for helping you out, but on the other you resent them. I can also imagine how hard it was for you as a child to hide the secret from your mother… what do you think is the reason you never chose to tell her?

As for the guy, well, something is off, because he worshipped you, told you you were his queen, and that he would always be there for you, and yet, he didn’t want to find a way to live with you but said it’s hopeless because it’s long distance. Well, long-distance isn’t written in stone, it can be changed if the parties really love each other. But no, he didn’t really want a close, committed relationship with you, and I am starting to think that it’s because he was afraid you’d take away his independence.

The scenario that comes to mind is that he has issues with his mother, whom on one hand he adores and sees as a queen, but who sucks him in into her drama and he needs to take care of her emotionally, and it’s too much for him. And so he needs to stay away. So perhaps he felt he has a similar dynamic with you – he is attracted to you, but he also feels a very strong and intense need on your side, which he is afraid would suck him in and he would disappear? Do you think this is a plausible scenario?