Dear thatssoelsie:

It looks to me that he likes to separate his work life from his personal life. It is not true that you are “a secret” because his family (and friends?) know about you. It’s only his coworkers that don’t. I am guessing that he enjoys the almost-flirtatious, but not really flirtatious communication with female coworkers (most men would, I believe), but you can tell from the “whoever gets to be your girlfriend will be very lucky” text by a coworker that to her knowledge, neither she, nor any of the other female coworkers is his girlfriend.

When he told you: “I don’t want anyone to think I have a crazy/ jealous girlfriend… they think highly of me“- sounds like he was angry and exasperated. Is it that you’ve been giving him a lot of hard time, being  jealous.. and he.. exploded?

anita