Dear Pebblas:

You are welcome.

“I would just like to find out your views and opinions on your partners watching porn?“- my views on porn is that I wish the whole porn industry didn’t exist: it offends and disgusts me.

“How did your partner respond to your voicing concerns (if you did have)?“- I wouldn’t be in partnership with a person who watches porn. If to my surprise I discovered that a partner watched porn, I would tell him how much it offends me, and ask him if he is able and willing to stop watching it.  If he confidently answered that he is not able and/ or willing to stop watching it, I would have to end the romantic/ physical part of the partnership.. move to separate bedrooms or… separate altogether, depending on the circumstances of the partnership.

“I can’t get passed it… it makes me feel so damn uncomfortable and insecure“- I am not surprised that your partner watching porn makes you feel all these things, I would have felt the same.

“He’s open minded about everything, always“- is he open minded about no longer watching porn, so that you no longer suffer because of it?

anita