There have been a few typos and such, so I want to re-submit my above post in an improved/edited form:

Dear Felix:

Ever since you first posted in July 2019, and all the way to now, I read all of your 25 threads, and I communicated with you at length. I also read the 11 pages of your ongoing other thread: I read your posts and the replies that you received.

I understand that it helps you to feel better for a short time when you  type away your frustrations into the computer screen, and it helps you to feel better for a short time when you receive replies that you like. But, although suggestions meant to  help you long-term have been offered to you- you accepted none. The core problems that often make you feel badly remain unchanged ever since your very first thread more than 2 years ago.

Earlier, when I communicated with you, I compared your obsessions to itches that need to be scratched. At one point, when I realized that all I was doing when communicating with you was scratching your itches and nothing more- I stopped communicating with you. I will elaborate on the imagery: in your threads, particularly evident in your still ongoing 11 page thread, this is what’s been happening- (1) you feel itchy and distressed, so you present members with your itch: here is my Girl Itch.. here is my Regret Itch.. here is my Height Itch, etc., (2) a member replies, and in doing so, scratching your itch, (3) your itch having been scratched, you feel better and you thank the member for.. scratching your itch, (4) you get itchy again, and present members with another itch (Regret and Height are two main itchy themes)…  and on and on it goes. In my mind, I’ve been thinking of your threads as The Itchy and Scratchy Show.

Your itchiness is your overthinking aka obsessive thinking. I suggested earlier that you see a medical doctor for medical treatment for your obsessive thinking. There are medications that help a lot of people with obsessive thinking, maybe those can help you too.

I can see the use of psychotherapy for you as well. In psychotherapy, perhaps you can be helped to (1) Accept your height as what it is (5’5”), as well as to accept all that you cannot change about yourself and your life, (2) Change your false core belief that people are conspiring to make you feel badly for your height, and for whatever else, and that the world is against you.. when it is not the case, (3) Look into the Regret Theme and resolve it, (4) Change what is possible for you to change, in yourself and in your life.

I am not interested to return to The Itchy and Scratchy Show: it would make me feel badly to think of myself as.. a Scratcher: one whose (unpaid) job is to scratch another person’s itches.. a humiliating job, in my mind.  And so, the above two suggestions (seeing a medical doctor and seeing a psychotherapist) are all I have in mind for you. These two things can calm your itchiness/ obsessive thinking long-term: wouldn’t that be wonderful…?

anita

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