Dear Bananananananer,

you are very welcome!

I do realize that that is a lot of moving for a growing person, especially with moving to numerous schools and making and re-making new friends every time. I’m not exactly sure how it’s affected me, but I know it has. It had to have affected me, right?

Yes, it most probably had an effect. We as children need a sense of security, stability, a sense of belonging. If you had to change schools several times per year, that can be really frustrating! I remember I didn’t want to move not even once during my elementary school, because I had good friends, my class mates, one of which I am still friends with to this day. It was a truly non-judgmental relationship, which meant so much for me and gave me a sense of strength, since my own mother was so judgmental. I haven’t even realized how much those early friendships meant to me until much later in life. If you didn’t have that, if you always needed to leave just as you started making friends, I can imagine it could affect you negatively because we thrive on healthy relationships, on strong bonds with people…

After reading your and others’ replies, I am definitely going to be attending therapy. If moving around or having anxiety or anything else has made pursuing my goals that much more of a difficult task, then I believe I need to learn how to cope with it and grow, instead of simply sitting stagnant with self pity and frustration.

Yes, it’s a very good decision to seek therapy and heal and manage those problems. Because it’s doable, you can heal and you can thrive. You don’t need to suffer till the rest of your life. So by all means, work on understanding yourself and what you were missing as a child, and how to repair it now… and if you have any questions or dilemmas, I’ll be happy to answer. I wish you luck!