we started chatting on 10 dec (friday) and it was good, he sent a lot of pictures and videos of him on snapchat everyday, every morning. and throughout the day. but i think he does that to everyone on his snap streaks. now i realise whenever i snap him and it had a question or statement in it he never replied to it lmao. he sends personal videos to me sometimes, because he mentions my name in it. then i started liking him because i was physically attracted to him, and he was a fun person.

on the third day of chatting he asked me what i think of him. which made me think he was interested in me. we sexted on the fourth day and it was good. he told me he’s never had something like that before. so uk i felt special. but i know he’s had a lot of sex experience and talked to a lot of girls. this is when i felt happy and i guess i started to open up more and sent more pics and videos of me on snapchat (like non sexually) and he always called me cute, gorgeous, and complimented me a lot. he saved some pictures and videos in the chat too. and i did the same for his. so at this point i thought he liked me. i felt special.

it was all good until 16 dec (thursday) he started taking longer to reply. but it wasn’t entirely his fault, sometimes i ignored his snap on purpose and left it open just to play hard to get. but on that day too i may have overshared my life and maybe he got the ick.

17 dec (friday) was hell. i ignored some of his snaps, because he was suddenly really late at replying. and i know it’s not because he’s busy. i saw his snapcount go up. i was sad the whole day because it was going great and suddenly he’s distant ? but i pretended fine, we didn’t snap much but that friday night he got drunk and he sent me a personal video with a bottle of beer in his mouth saying he really missed talking to me. i was happy when he said that and i thought “maybe i’ve been too mean by ignoring him and playing hard to get”. that night i couldn’t sleep and i had to confess so i confessed to him that i liked him a lot. it was like 5am for him. he said he was drunk and tired but he wanted to stay awake to talk to me. he said he likes me too. the convo was like this

me: i like you like alot, just telling just so you know him: im getting butterflies bc my crush said she likes me. me: really ? him: yes i like you me: but i like you more than a friend him: i like you more than a friend too. me: do u like other girls him: well i like my mom my aunt and sometimes my sis other than that i don’t have romantic feelings for anyone, and that was it. i didn’t expect anything like a relationship whatsoever. i thought things were great now that we established it.

so next day saturday i sent him snaps normally. but from 11 am (his timing) he disappeared the whole day. he sent me (and others?) a snap of him at like 11am his time and then disappeared til 10 pm when he sent back a selfie. at this point i was really mad like wtf he just disappeared and didn’t say anything about it. at this point i was acting like a crazy angry girlfriend because i wanted updates. but i was so mad and i didn’t say anything i just ignored him the whole time. on sunday i he sent his usual morning selfie. i replied “disappearing first before you disappear again” (yes so cringe ik). and guess what he sent ? he sent a snap with just “aw” with a sad look. Like wtf i expected an explanation and all i got was AW. So i totally ignored him. After a few hours he sent a snap saying “…..” i replied a snap saying “what”. he replied but only 18 minutes later i opened and he said “feeling ignored”. i replied “but i am” it was like 11 pm there and he ignored me the whole night. he could snap others but he didn’t reply to mine. only replied when i sent him a long message in the chat saying i wanna stop talking because we’re not “emotionally compatible” and i need constant attention from the person i like but he can’t give me it. and that i can’t be friends too bc i liked him. only then he replied to my chat (it was 4am for him) and all he said was. “I need to process this… ttyl” and that was 4 am sunday for him. it’s tuesday now and he hasn’t gotten back. And our 11 day streak is ending as i write this. i’ve been waiting miserably. update: i chatted him on snapchat asking if we can talk. 21 hours later and he hasnt replied. clearly he’s ignoring me. i don’t know if he needs more time or he’s just going to ghost me. i don’t know what exactly went wrong. did he meet someone else ? was i giving myself too much ? was i needy. was i being too impatient.  i kind of realised my mistake. i wish i could restart because i really liked him. like really liked him, he was my ideal guy in looks and personality. i had trust issues too which made me react in such a way. i’ve been through many heartbreaks but this was my last straw. i just want to shut myself from everyone i don’t even go out of my room. i was so happy last week. rather it was just a rollercoaster of emotions.

for more information he’s 19M from denmark, i’m 22F from singapore. met online. i’d really appreciate any advice or suggestion. i don’t know what to do to make myself feel better. i’ve just been in this state of restlessness and anxiety. (been going on for 5 days) i wonder if he’s genuinely need more time or he just doesn’t care about me anymore. i need to ask him but he won’t even reply. i feel like messaging him on another app but that’s just desperate and obsessive. he’s also extroverted and has many friends and girls on his smapchat so maybe he’s just playing with me. if he did then i got played. really hard. fell in love with him and now he’s gone