Dear nycartist:

You are welcome. “I don’t know how to strive for a more equal balance in these relationships. But I can say for some reason (maybe it is just my mood at the moment), I feel some anger about it. These years-long relationships are hard to change. But I want respect in all of them. That also feels lacking whether I am being the child pushing back or the unappreciated mother figure” –

– if you want to work with me here, on your thread, on promoting equal balance and mutual respect in any of the friendships that you mentioned, you are welcome to pick two situations in which you felt disrespected, one in which you were the child, the other in which you were the unappreciated mother figure, describe each situation factually (strictly what was said and what took place) and I will be glad to discuss it with you.

anita