Dear Lindsey:

“Lindsey: Stop saying some of the gross things you text me” – this is Lindsey being strong, asserting herself/ asserting a boundary.

“Chance: I always talk to you like that” – this is Chance disrespecting Lindsey’s assertion: arguing against it, suggesting that because he grossed Lindsey out in the past, it … gives him the right to gross you out in the future and always.

“Lindsey: yes, and it’s gross and you need to stop” – this is Lindsey giving in to Chance a bit, losing some of the strength of her original assertion with that “yes“, and then she repeats her assertion.

“Chance: You’ve been weird the last month” – this is Chance taking advantage of Lindsey’s weakening, and instead of considering that maybe he really was gross, he is pointing his finger at Lindsey, calling Lindsey weird.

“Lindsey: You just get too vulgar sometimes” – this is Lindsey weakening some more, “just” and “sometimes” are the weakening words.

After reading your recent post, I say- don’t send any more messages to Chance and BLOCK him, make sure that he is not able to send you a single message from now on. He is not respectful of you. (Reads like he is not respectful to women in general).

I also read what Jason communicated to you and I think that he is definitely worth blocking the gross guy!

anita

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