Dear anita

Thank you for your patience and time you putting in your words.

You brought it to the point. As a child distressing emotions were not accepted if nothing tragic happened like somebody died. But when I grew older I couldn’t control my emotions and they got very intense. I didn’t know how to handle them neither do my parents. So they walked away and hoped that I calm down myself. But I couldn’t bear those emotions and regulated them in very destructive ways. Now as an adult I fear that people will walk away if I am not my stable self. Those intense emotions are scary and terrible for others too. So I have a tendency to avoid others especially if I acted irritating or created discomfort for others.

I regret that my parents didn’t know how to comfort me as a child. But now as an adult I don’t seek the same consolation. What should I do then to get the comfort I need to calm down those intense emotions? Like you said alone the emotions intensify but in such a unstable state I can’t seek comfort in others.

Sesha