Dear Lindsey:

You asked in your previous post if you are overreacting. I am wondering this about myself, because I am quite disappointed and even angry that he asked you for half of your first trip together, half of ALL expenses, including the massages.

What I am sure about is that you shouldn’t agree to pay $380 for the trip, and that you should tell him what you are thinking of telling him, that you are “a single mom and I can’t afford the cost of these types of trips“.

Here is what I suggest: tell him just that, which I boldfaced above. Make the message short and simple, not angry or disappointed. Don’t add anything about the massages or anything else. Instead, wait to see how he responds. How he responds will be very telling, I think.

anita