Hi Anita,

Sorry life has been rather busy of late. I am definitely feeling more comfortable and calmer with my attachment to Kate. Though there have been a lot of health and other emergencies that I could not avoid as a carer of my father. I know we had talked about reducing my carers responsibility, but the way the system works in the UK is that I am still the next of kin and am responsible for certain matters. But I have definitely reduced my amount of visits to my father, but it was issues with self harm and potential suicide attempts which needed my attention. I now recognise patterns that when things like this happen, I become more in need of affirmation and affection from Kate, like I am hyper aware of my emotional vulnerability, if that makes sense?

You are right about the bad behaviour, I did talk to my dad and expressed that I can’t keep living like this if he is going to make situations difficult and stressful, that he needs to help himself as well. I explained how much of an impact it was having on my life, and he seemed to understand.

I hope you are well,

D