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@Helcat
“I too went into debt, treating my chronic pain condition with electro acupuncture and cupping. I am sorry that I am not able to help you raise funds.” << I am very sorry to hear about your situation.
I know how hard it is to pay off debt when you are not healthy.
"It’s a shame that you do not respond well to electricity…” << I regret that, too. I know how certain electro-devices can help many.
"Also, I have a question for you, you don’t need to answer here if you don’t want to. What do you miss most from your life before your health issues developed?” << I have been ill since childhood. A medical oversight... As part of the complications from the meningitis, permanent changes have developed in my head and eyes. Many of the remaining problems developed in the aftermath. Some of my disease burden (autoimmune) is genetic (both parents).
But if you're asking about what caused the huge flare-up (the deterioration of my health), I've already written: the death of close family members and a debt that fell on my shoulders when I was a child.
@Tommy
"Personally, I have been scammed so many times by people that I have a hard outer shell.” << Ten years ago my attitude was similar. Therefore, if I supported any fundraising, it was only for animals - they don't lie. But life has shown me the lives of the people quite down there. Without going into details, I will just write my little observation. Those I have seen who really need help somehow never get it.
People who support fundraising somehow instinctively choose fundraising of people who are not that poor (or even celebrity fundraising). It is not for me to judge, everyone has the right to make their own choice whether they want to help someone or not.
But it creates a false picture of reality for people like you, Tommy.
In the past, I don't know how many times I have been scammed (by supporting someone financially). But I do not care. I believe that if I have helped someone, it is my intention that counts.
It is the love I have poured into another person. It's the sacrifice I made to give someone food or money even though I myself was sometimes lacking that month.
I respect your standpoint, Tommy. But consider that there is always some chance that you could be wrong.
If you come across a person who is chronically ill, for such a person your words can be very hurtful.
Some may even cry...
"Like when I suggested her husband learn acupuncture, all the excuses came out why he could not.” << For you they are just excuses, while I have tried to explain at least part of the circumstances in which we find ourselves.
You already have your image of me in your head and nothing is likely to change that.
Probably my words at the fundraising: "Also, if you have a bike that is in working condition and that you do not need – I’m also very happy to accept such a donation. A functioning bike would help my husband a lot to do our shopping“, you consider an impertinence on my part.
@anita
Thank you very much for your in-depth analysis (thorough reading).
My husband and I are Polish, that is correct. But we never planned to come or live here.
“The promise of a better life and hard cash in Germany attracts workers” << I was able to live in the "Eldorado" (Germany) permanently when I was 12 years old. I never wanted to. I was coping in my own country. So did my husband.
However, at some point in his company, the bosses changed and the husband's paycheck did not then allow him to live on his own. At that time we were not yet married, and I lived with my grandfather and mother. My husband's salary did not allow him to rent a room (not a flat, a room) and pay all the bills and food. In the meantime, in addition to my health problems, my grandfather's health had deteriorated considerably. Considerable funding was needed for his treatment.
Then my then-boyfriend went to Germany to work in production. Due to various problems with the intermediary office, my husband soon changed to a more financially stable job. While we were coming out ahead with medical costs, my grandfather died. The situation regarding housing and other matters has changed dramatically. Things also started to go wrong in my husband's company - court cases for bribery and breaking other laws.
I wanted my husband to return to the country, but first we had to find him a new job so that he had somewhere to go.
Then the pandemic restrictions came in and I had to make a decision quickly. Due to lack of funds, I moved to Germany - within a week we rented a flat and I moved to Germany.
We slowly paid off the rest of my grandfather's medical expenses and the cost of moving and renting a flat (deposit). Then further changes took place in the husband's company and the employees started to be cheated more and more on their wages.
"I think that an intelligent and educated original poster with perfect English…” << Thank you very much for your compliment. But my English is not perfect, I just know which correction tools to use.
"And definitely, she is able to access information and resources in Germany so to correct the situation. Perhaps suing for monetary compensation for labor abuse and for the effects it had on her husband is an option” << very pertinent remark.
Let me start by saying something else: I am the daughter of a lawyer. My dad was a lawyer, but because he wanted to help people, at a time when he shouldn't be doing it - he was eventually forced to stop being a lawyer. So he was a manual worker most of his life. Apart from many genetic problems, I inherited from my father a talent for painting and the ability to read legislation. I had a total of 3 semesters of law in both my studies - the criminal code is like a book to me. So how is it possible that I am unable to do anything about the current situation?
Because the problem relates to time registration, which is a famous problem in Germany. German legislation (Labour Law Act) states that overtime must be recorded. German law does not oblige employers to register normal working hours. As a result, many companies interpret the regulations quite freely - many places do not even have a working time recorder. In places where there are recorders, there are situations where working hours evaporate from time sheets. People are not able to get their timesheets because there is no legislation that enables them to do so.
You can go to court about your overtime, but you must have a way to prove the time worked.
Witnesses and monitoring would be essential. However, monitoring records can disappear. And as for witnesses... No one will vouch for you.
There is constant turnover in my husband's company. In response to incorrectly calculated wages, people dismiss themselves overnight (they don't even come to collect documents). Of course this is total stupidity, but most manual workers in Germany (incomers) often don't even have a high school diploma.
Many employees do not even know the names of their colleagues.
There are, of course, a few permanent workers, but these workers are afraid to say anything. These permanent employees are obviously being ripped off on their paychecks, as is my husband, but they are afraid to say anything lest things accidentally get worse. I cannot force these people to cooperate.
Over the last year and a half, as the situation has gradually deteriorated, I have tried many times to change things. People do not agree to sign petitions on obvious rights violations, let alone be a witness in a case whose success is not entirely certain.
At the same time, they all expect me to fight for them, on their behalf, but without their participation.
As for the court case itself - the BMAS (Federal Ministry of Labour and Social Affairs) decision makes the whole thing very difficult.
In short - the European Union has issued a decree regarding the obligation to register all working time by the employer, but without the exact date on which the decree comes into force.
The European Union Members therefore have a certain discretion as to the timing of implementation.
"On the other hand, the Federal Ministry of Labor (BMAS) explained that the ECJ decision refers to the Spanish legal situation and that there is no direct implementation obligation for other countries. So far, the German Working Time Act (ArbZG) has not been changed.” << google translation from german:
"Andererseits erklärte das Bundesarbeitsministerium (BMAS), dass sich die EuGH-Entscheidung auf die spanische Rechtslage beziehe und dass keine unmittelbare Umsetzungspflicht für andere Länder bestehe. Bisher wurde das deutsche Arbeitszeitgesetz (ArbZG) jedenfalls nicht geändert.”
To determine overtime, normal working hours must be recorded. Due to the lack of an obligation to register normal working time, the German employer does not see the need to introduce a reliable working time registration system that the employee could view. German lawyers were supposed to take care of it, but they were interrupted by the pandemic.
Employers, on the other hand, began to use the BMAS interpretation to their advantage (read -> to cheat the employee more).
I will comment on the rest but later (sorry, my eyes hurt a lot).