Dear Anna,

I would like to highlight just a point: we had a first 5h convo on the 8th of April, one week after the breakup because I thought he was cheating on me. Then we talked more about the reasons why he broke up.

So basically on the 8th I wasn’t questionning him about the reasons why he broke up

Okay, on April 8 you weren’t questioning him, but you were talking about the reasons why he broke up with you. But let me ask you something: if he said that he is scared that he lost you and that he still has feelings for you, then why didn’t he try to get back together? He never tried to get back together, has he? So no matter what he was saying at that point, he didn’t change his mind about the breakup. What is important is his actions, not his words.

I trully wanted to respect his decisions and not overthinking about whatever.

Well… it seems to me that you haven’t respected his decision to break up with you, because you wouldn’t accept that he didn’t feel romantic attraction, and so you wouldn’t accept that he has a “legitimate” reason to leave you. You questioned the sanity and legitimacy of his leaving, haven’t you?

Also, you haven’t respected his decision to start seeing someone else 2  weeks after he broke up with you. When you found out, you attacked him for that.

And then, you haven’t respected his decision to talk to the girl he fancied, almost 2 months after you broke up. You stormed right between them, showing your fierce protest.

I am sorry but I don’t really think you respected his decisions…