Dear Sun:

You are studying law. Here are excerpts from Best law schools. net/ 12 qualities of a successful law student:

“1. Knowledge Seeker: First and the most important thing is you should have knowledge thirst inside you. A successful student is always a knowledge hungry. The more you will learn about your profession the more powerful you become…

“2. Self Belief: The second important factor is you should be confident enough in your arguments. The confidence comes with the knowledge. More you learn about the Law the better your self belief will become…

“3. Researcher: Studying law requires dedication and hard work…. 4. Cool Headed: Law is a fiend which requires patience… a cool headed law student is more successful than an aggressive one…. 5. Self Organizing Skills: A law student must have self organizing skills…. Self discipline is always very important in daily life but it becomes important when you are dealing with important issues. Careless students are less likely to succeed in law field.

“6. Good Reader: A law student should also be a good reader…. 7. Problem Solver: Law student will have to deal with lots of complex problems and somehow have to solve them… 8. People Skills: … At the end of the day lawyers work with people, on behalf of people, and the decisions that are made affect people’s lives. So you must know how good you are at understanding other people. 9. Analytical Skills: … The law student must have good analytical skills.. . 10. Creativity:… one must be creative and possess the ability to think out of the box… 11. Expression of Ideas: … It is also very important to express your idea and communicate well to the world… 12. Motivation: productive and sustainable motivation requires both quantity and quality. Law is a dynamic career where you have to keep yourself engaged and motivated.

“Conclusion: It is not possible for a student to build all these skills at once. It is a time taking process and with the passage of time Law student will learn all these skills”.

What I learned from having participated in this 13-page thread is that members who are “Suddenly questioning (their) sexuality” are focused on their sexuality, obsessed with it (even those who never had sex with another person), want to talk about nothing else but It, the Topic of their obsession. But there is no  benefit in any of that. On the other hand the 1-12 above will benefit you. Let’s see how you can use this list in regard to the topic at hand:

You must be a Knowledge Seeker, Researcher & Good Reader=> read these 13 pages, including my many replies, and take notes, be dedicated to this study and do the hard work. Self Belief => as you do this study, you will become more confident, cool headed and patient than you are now. Self Organizing Skills, Problem Solver, Good Analytical Skills:& Creativity =>  doing this study in an organized way and applying analytical skills & creativity will help see your problem with more clarity and arrive at ways to solve it. People Skills and Expression of ideas => after your study express to me and to the readers (people) what you learned, will you?

You don’t feel like doing any of this? Well, this is where Motivation applies!

anita