Dear anita,

Thank you once again, for praising my improvements!

It will be helpful if you have a clear enough picture in your mind of the physical and/ or mental traits to look for in a young woman.

I’m really attracted to girls with more or less the same appearance as that girl i used to have a crush on for a long time, and i’m okay if she has a bit of coquettish side…. What i don’t like is if she looks like she forces herself to gain attention just like how that girl did on her social media, like she told me she’s not ready for a relationship but acts like she’s desperate for attention, it doesn’t make sense…. I prefer girls with a bit calmer side….

I noticed a long time ago that you are pretty good at communicating with people right here on your thread, including in your most recent post

Yes, i can say that i’m pretty good at communicating with people “online”, because it’s easier…. Whereas in real life i’m not that confident with my body and facial features… so i keep being cautious when i talk…. Like i don’t want people to make sure i have a asymmetrical teeth when i laugh… And also when we talk on real life we need to think faster….

Another thing…..
What i’m curious is that, is relationships about an act of a man persuading a woman to follow his life?

Because in my culture here boys are most likely to stay in the same city with his parents or live in the same home. To take care of them on their older days. Whereas girls have more freedom so they’ll join her husband’s house…

For example: i have a little sister, if she marries someone from a different city/country, she’ll go there and leave our home…. While me, i’ll stay and my future wife will join me…..

There are several girls in my city that i find attractive, but most of them attend uni outside my city or a different country nearby my city… and i bet they plan to work there (not on my city)….

I plan to get to know them by texting on their social media….. and this is what worries me the most…. Idk if they’ll get persuaded to be with me…..

There are lots of reasons why they shouldn’t be persuaded, such as:

It’ll be a ldr relationship, i’ve experienced rejection from that girl who i used to have a crush on for a long time…. Idk to get rejected twice

My city is small and boring….

I still have lots of weaknesses (i know you said to focus on our strengths) and i’m unattractive….

also we get to know each other from social media and not from real life interaction…..

Do u have any opinions regarding this kind of situation?

This is also one of the lessons that i learnt: relationships are really that hard…. Sometimes we need luck too…. Family conditions also play a part in relationships…..