Dear Christin:

“I am wondering what you would think if you were in his position. Would you have appreciated a text?“-

If you send him a message suggesting to be friends, he is not likely to like it.  Men who were rejected romantically by a woman are not inclined to want to be friends (of the without-benefits kind) with the woman who rejected them romantically/ sexually.

If you send him a message suggesting to resume a dating relationship with him, he is more likely to like it.

If I was in your place, I would need to be very clear, in my own mind, about what it is that I want from the guy, and then, if I message him, I would be very clear, honest and straight forward with him.

anita