i love my parents and have a great relationship with him but they are very expectant of me and have very high standards. i feel i’ve only truly disappointed them a handful of times in my life. however when i did, it was usually a big issue for me and i would feel shame and it would take some time for it to go away. however, they were always kind to me after some time passed and encouraged me not to dwell on the incident and that they had forgiven me.

now as an adult, my mom is very close to me. i tell her almost everything but refrain from telling her when i do something i feel is truly wrong because she can be very judgmental. she’s very moral too and i’ve always admired this about her.

if i say nothing to my partner, how do you suggest that i move past this incident and look to the future? how should i go about in making it up to them?