Dear anonymous:

I too hope that you will feel better, and soon. When you feel guilt and shame about the ache, try to not fight the feeling. Don’t try to get rid of the feeling. The more you  fight a feeling, and the more you try to get rid of it- the more it stays. Try to relax (when you feel shame and guilt) and talk sense to yourself. Maybe your logic will sink into the feelings. If you continue to obsess about the ache, consider psychotherapy.

anita