Dear Madalina:

You wrote in your 3rd post above: “Thank you, Anita.. Thank you again!” –  but you and I did not communicate on this thread before your most recent post which you addressed to me. In this thread I communicated at length with the original poster January – September 2021 and shared with her about my own experience with IBS. I think that in your most recent post, you confused me with another member.

You and I communicated back in June and July of 2020 in your own thread, and I am glad to read from you again! I read what you shared in your 3 posts in this thread regarding your IBS experience.  Wikipedia reads in its entry on IBS/ Cause: “childhood physical and psychological abuse is often associated with the development of IBS“-

– In your own thread, you indeed described a childhood of physical and psychological abuse: “my childhood was bad, my father is an alcoholic..  he became very violent with my mom. My entire childhood was made of 2 weeks of good dad and then 3 weeks or more of drunk dad Who beat mom repeatedly… She also left to Italy to work and left me with my father at home.. I felt hurt and abandoned“.

Wikipedia in regard to IBS also reads: “ It is believed that psychological stress may trigger IBS in predisposed individuals“- reads to me that your “urgent bowel movements in the most unfortunate moments” are likely to be triggered by either what you ate before those moments and/ or by psychological stress.

You wrote: “I might have to work on the acceptance side also”- the serenity prayer says: “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference“- I hope you can apply this prayer to your IBS situation.

Radical acceptance means to accept a situation without judgment, without hating the situation and wishing to change (the parts of it that cannot be changed at any one time). It means to stop fighting against what you cannot win. I think that if you find a way to incorporate radical acceptance to your IBS situation, it will help a lot.

Emotion regulation skills will no doubt help with your IBS situation in regard to the psychological stress factor. Back in your own thread we talked about it, and you wrote: “I will look into some emotional regulation skills and implement them“- have you?

I would love to read more from you, either on this thread or on your 2020 thread!

anita