Dear Janus:

Before I respond to your recent posts, I wanted to tell you that last evening I talked again with T’s father and told him about the online support source you wrote about, the one offered by the mother of a trans son. We talked about gender identity being a spectrum and he agreed. I told him about my own gender nonconforming identity history. I think that he appreciates the talk and that he will feel comfortable talking with me about the topic in the future.

Thank you for the extensive information on sustainability, you are thorough in your explanations and I appreciate it. I feel optimistic about sustainability being the sensible  right thing to do. It’s just that I don’t feel optimistic that enough of it will be done to change the current trajectory of our planet: the escalating deterioration into extensive, massive droughts, frequent floodings, storms and wildfires…  and the criminal war in Ukraine (and politics otherwise) making it so much worse.

I very much like your self-sustainability work: “I feel like sustainability applies to developing healthy coping mechanisms too. I had been trying to look masculine, I got so caught up in the physical appearance that I lost myself in an eating disorder. Over time…  I began developing healthier coping mechanisms like deep breathing, yoga, listening to music when I’m stressed…Not depleting my energy with unhealthy coping mechanisms, being more sustainable with myself so I can continue on and breathe in the elegance of the in universe“- beautifully said and inspiring!

“Treating people kindly is important because people never know how much hurt  a person is carrying inside“- beautifully said as well!

I loved the walking-in-the-forest imagery that you paraphrased so well: “you go out in nature’s forest and you see the trees. the trees come in all shapes and sizes. some are tall, some are short, some skinny and some broad. some have broken branches and some are whole. some are wavy growing while others are tall and straight… you don’t judge them because you realize that perhaps the tall ones grew that way due to proper nutrients and the short ones grew that way maybe due to lesser nutrients…“- inspiring!!!

anita