Dear Katrine,

I must say I don’t like his behavior, or rather, that his ambivalent behavior leaves you confused and anxious (at least it would leave me anxious if I were in the same situation). He seems to like being physically near you, in your space, but not say anything. It’s almost like torturing you – because he knows you like him and want to be with him, but he’s not giving it to you. Yet, he seeks you and stands close to you, and it’s almost like he enjoys being wanted by you. He enjoys you craving for him…

I am not saying he does it on purpose, but the net effect is that it feels like torture (at least it would to me!) because there is the object of my desire, standing very close to me, almost touching me, but I can’t touch him, can’t do anything, because he said he doesn’t want to be with me. My reaction to this: Arrrrgh! Terribly annoying! And if you like him as much as you said you do, it must be very frustrating for you, not just uncomfortable and weird, as you’ve described it.

If I were you, I wouldn’t allow to be tortured like that by him. If he moves close and just stands there without saying anything, I would move away. Because if you just passively stand there, while he is tempting you with his “untouchable presence”, you in fact allow him to have power over you. In addition, I think it also makes it harder for you to move on, because a part of you is perhaps still hoping that he would change his mind. And so you just stand there, at his mercy…

What do you think?