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He was sleeping with his daughters mother when she was on drugs and alcohol on the streets with 2 boys. He said he felt obligated to help but that he didn’t know she was running from DCFS for 2 years with the 2 boys that she already had. She stayed drunk and high the whole time that she was pregnant causing his daughter to be born in March with fetal alcohol syndrome. She’s still not sober, and she has no chance of getting custody of her. The daughter is in temporary DCFS foster care. B gets to video chat her and is currently waiting on the judge to say whether or not he gets custody December 21st. It’s a very sad case. I came in the picture the day after his daughter was born in Arizona. I had no idea he had a daughter until I met him and she showed me a picture and told me the story. But his dad called me and said, if you don’t want his daughter or the baby in your stomach we will take them both! I got highly pissed because I never said any of that. I just expressed my concerns with not being able to care for all of them. When we met he was still getting sexual favors for rides because I found the texts. I am very worried. If you met him you’d understand why it’s such a hard decision. He’s very very hard to read because he’s so much different from others given his TBI. I figure I’ll know what to do after he gets custody of his daughter or not and judge by actions on how they go about the care arrangements. His dad refuses to believe she has special needs when it was clearly stated. They never call and check on her so I find it very hard to believe that B would get 50% custody and his parents 50% custody. Honestly I don’t think they want it by lack of effort and pretty much refusing to go to Arizona for court. It’s a dysfunctional family. His father would call me fat (I’m only 4 months pregnant and 150 pounds) when I’d go over there. He’s very verbally abusive to everyone. I’m not sure why he should be able to raise a special needs daughter. Honestly I’ve wanted to really come clean about my concerns to the case worker, but I don’t feel it’s my business. Any advise on a right answer for that part? Im not marrying him for at least 2 years, and that’s if he proves himself. I worry also given his past with drugs these 2 babies will stress him out to going back to them. I’ve never seen him handle babies, and I don’t know if he’s fighting for his daughter for right or wrong reasons. He bragged to everyone how he’s getting her, and I worry it’s for show instead of love. Same with his parents.