“If you don’t know what “normal” is, I think it means you don’t know where you boundaries are, i.e. you don’t know what is acceptable to you and what is not.”

Yes, maybe what you write is correct. Since I have a slightly turmoiled background, I don’t understand the so called “normal” stuff. My go to quality is usually anxiety.

“The result is that you don’t even know what you need, or what you want.”

I think you are right. At times I don’t understand what makes me happy. I should work on this a lot more.