Dear Katrine Nielsen:

You are welcome, Katrine, and thank you for your appreciation, empathy and kindness. You are intelligent, insightful and kind, and you are appreciative of the positive aspects of your life this year, soon coming to an end (and a new beginning). Congratulations for all your progress this year!

Here is an example of your amazing insight in your most recent post: “With the guy earlier this year, he had a stable childhood (and life) so it was just me who got triggered when he got too close. I was bouncing off of him like a rubber ball, but he kept staying there, meaning that it made it easier for me to let my guard down. With me and the cute guy, we both bounce… Being in the overwhelming state of fight/flight is by far the hardest for me to deal with“-

– it’s clear, for one, that the kind of guy you need in your life is the non-bouncy kind. Secondly, it’s clear to me that this fight/flight dynamic, what you often referred to earlier as emotional dysregulation is your greatest challenge. I wish you had access to psychotherapy that specifically targets emotional regulation (DBT comes to mind, standing for Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). Also, there are certain psychiatric drugs of the safer kind that come to mind, like the SSRI group. I don’t know if you ever consider SSRIs.

Looking back at my own psychotherapy back in 2011-13, my therapist used DBT strategies as well as Mindfulness skills while he focused on emotional regulation: part of the homework he gave me after ever session was to listen to one of Mark William’s Mindfulness meditation audios (you can download those for free). While treating me, he was in contact with a psychiatrist who prescribed me with an SSRI (Fluvoxamine). I was off that drug and all psychiatric drugs ever since Oct 2013.

Good to read from you, Katrine!

anita