Dear Farnaz:

“I’m assuming that your mother was similar, wasn’t she?“- I hope she wasn’t similar to your father in this regard: I was 20 something, was on a date, his name was Benny. I returned home late, she waited for me, sitting in the dark waiting, and she said a lot of things, I remember so little of what she said (at that time and at so many other times), but I remember this, she said, paraphrased: I know why you are with him, because he has a (a vulgar way to say penis) and I don’t!

I never shared this here. And in my mind, you will not want to talk to me anymore because of these words… the sentiment.. from a mother, it is too vulgar, too wrong. I never brought it up to her, never asked her about these words. I don’t quite understand.

anita