Dear Joe:

“She said whenever she talks about her problem with me, it feel like she’s talking to her mom… We spent our last day together and she told me that she didn’t want to her love for me into hate“- read like she’s been angry with her mother and with you (projecting her mother into you, perhaps): she wouldn’t be worried about hating you, if she didn’t already feel anger at you.

“the main thing is that she doesn’t see a future with me and the con outweigh the pro“- reads like she gave the relationship and the breakup some thought before actually breaking up with you, enough thought to come up with cons and pros.

“She did apologize about the day we broke (up) about what she said, and told me she still loves me. I even asked if she’s going to talk about our relationship in therapy and she said no because our relationship was not the cause of (her) depression“- when people break up, they usually try to be gentle about it, to not hurt the other person’s feelings more than is necessary. It may very well be that she still loves you though, but her love may not be enough to outweigh the cons she has in mind, and the anger.

anita