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I can relate to this post very much! I haven’t lost anyone in my life but came close and betrayed by loved one. Or that’s how I feel. I’m estranged by my sibling who I considered to be my support, biggest source of strength and can never seem to get over that pain!
Going through the grieving process, I’ve learnt so many lessons along the way . We are all selfish one way or the other, and with time our priorities and preferences change. So a person whom you consider to be your best buddy , may have been in state to look after you or care for your needs in the past and is now no longer able to provide same level of support or friendship because there are other important priorities taking up his or her time. Yes, it shouldn’t be that hard to carve out few minutes to check on others but having that expectation of they will or should can leave us disappointed and hurt feelings. What I realized is that if we can keep our expectations low, we can never get upset about anything . It might sound terrible , but that’s the sad reality of today’s world and culture.